“Distance means so little when someone means so much.”
That quote should resonate inside the mind and hearts of anyone currently involved in a long-distance relationship. Even if you’re thinking about getting involved in one, that quote will save you a great deal of time, which would have been wasted with doubts and uncertainties.
This quote should replace the frequent mentality that “long distance relationships do not work” or even “long distance relationships are doomed from the start.”
With that type of misconception, it is no wonder why so many people seem to avoid this specific sort of connection all together. The problem is that the high number of failed long distance relationships seems to eclipse the growing number of long distance bonds which succeed.
The key to making certain your long distance relationship succeeds is simple: hard work.
It takes hard work and consistent effort to keep the flame of a long-distance relationship burning brightly.
Yes, it’s imperative to make regular visits so as to see each other whenever possible without making another person feel smothered. However, that doesn’t mean that you are off-the-clock when it comes to working on your relationship in between these face-to-face visits.
Your significant other is searching for the same thing that you are – reassurance. Reassurance that you still feel strongly about them. Reassurance that you’re just as involved in making the relationship work as they’re right now. Reassurance that you’re going to do whatever you can to make it work – regardless of the odds that claim it’s improbable.
Therefore, you need to put in the time, effort and hard work required to provide that reassurance on all levels. Why? Three reasons.
1) Law of Reciprocity: If you do it, chances are that he/she will reciprocate your efforts to supply you with the identical level of reassurance.
2) Value, Value, Value: Who does not want to feel valued and appreciated? Putting in the time and effort to make your relationship work – despite the physical distance that separates both – will add value to your own bond and create your significant other feel valued at precisely the identical time. At the end of the day, is not that what you need?
3) True Love is Cultivated over Time: A long distance dating shares a significant similarity with a short-distance connection: true love needs time to develop. An unknown person once said that “true love doesn’t mean being inseparable; it means being separated and nothing changes.” This essentially goes back to reassurance – making sure that you and your significant other stay on the same page.
THE BOTTOM LINE
There is nothing wrong with having a long-distance relationship. Although a large number of these bonds crash and burn, there are still quite a few that are still flying high in the clouds of love. The difference between crashing, Bat Removal and flying is amount of hard work that you put into maintaining your connection off of the ground.